Using The Guide to Getting It On and The Joy of Sex, this paper explores the ways in which sex guides address queer identities. The arguments presented rely on queer theory, particularly the work of Annamarie Jagose and Eve Sedgewick, to understand queer as an unstable and dynamic category of identity. The paper then turns to The Guide to Getting It On and The Joy of Sex to examine how sex guides uphold hegemonic standards of heterosexuality and whiteness and further marginalize queer identities and people of color, arguing that sex guides cannot account for queer identities and are inherently exclusionary even when they aim to be inclusive.